Let’s be honest, the job search can be a grueling process. There are many emotions that can take a toll on a job seeker but the key to success is staying positive and optimistic even in times of desperation.

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At some point, everyone experiences job search desperation that spurs from frustration of  trying to land a job. But, letting the feelings show can create a lot of trouble for a candidate. “When candidates are feeling desperate, negative or cynical, the employer can smell it a mile away,” says Ford Myers, author of Get the Job You Want Even When No One’s Hiring. “Desperation is a total turnoff. Instead of opening more doors for the job seeker, these behaviors close doors to new opportunities.”

During times of desperation, mistake can be made that can ultimately cost you the job and extend the length of a job search. Don’t let job search desperation get the best of you, avoid these mistakes when you’re feeling like giving up.

Applying For All: Just because the bills are pilling up and money is dwindling, doesn’t mean you have to apply to any and every position you see. In the long run, this can create confusion an even more frustration for a job seeker. If you’re applying to multiple positions, you might get confused if a recruiter calls you. Don’t let yourself get lost in countless positions, apply for jobs that make sense for your career and something you’re interested in pursuing. Employers want people who want to work for them, not a person who is desperate to land a job.

Paying For Expert Advice: If you’re already worried about money, paying for an expert is not the route to go. Paying for others to write your resume can compromise your voice as a candidate. Of course in some instances, there are experts can really help you during a job search but if you don’t have extra cash to spend, it’s best to steer clear. Take time to research how to write an attention grabbing resume and use online resources to help you. Expert pricing can cost an arm and a leg, if you’re not in a position to cough up the money, don’t waste your time.

Full-Time Only Positions: Most job seekers are looking for full-time, permanent positions but sometimes there aren’t enough available jobs to accommodate candidates. Applying for only full-time positions can prolong the job search and ultimately increase frustration and desperation. Keep an open mind and apply for part-time, temporary, freelance, or even remote work positions that make sense for your career so you maximize the chances of landing a job.

Intense Follow Up Behavior: It’s great to follow up with a “thank you” email after an interview but going overboard can look desperate. Following up is one thing but constant follow up, calling, or emailing deters hiring managers from pursuing a candidate. Tony Deblauwe, founder of HR4 Change, says being pushy is a classic sign of a desperate job seeker. “They will e-mail [or call] after one or two days. Candidates forget that many back-end processes slow job updates — not because people forgot about you or don’t care. This behavior doesn’t show you are determined and eager; rather it makes you appear annoying and distracting. Almost always people who do this, even if they appeared to be a great fit in the beginning, get eliminated.”

Don’t Give Up: The job search brings on a lot of emotions and some are tough to handle. You may feel like giving up but sometimes you just need to take a break and regroup. Take time to keep yourself mentally, emotionally, and physically healthy so you can push through the times of frustration. Keeping a positive mind and staying optimistic will open more doors for you in the end.