Our body language often speaks more than our verbal skills. Being aware of your body language and training yourself to use proper body language can make the difference in how you get along with people and possibly in your job search.Dr. Travis Bradberry, President of Talent Smart has some suggestions.
- Slouching is a sign of disrespect.
- Exaggerated gestures can imply that you’re stretching the truth.
- Watching the clock while talking to someone is a clear sign of disrespect, impatience, and inflated ego.
- Turning yourself away from others, or not leaning into your conversation, portrays that you are uninterested, and uncomfortable.
- Crossed arms — and crossed legs, to some degree — are physical barriers that suggest you’re not open to what the other person is saying.
- Inconsistency between your words and your facial expression causes people to sense that something isn’t right.
- Exaggerated nodding signals anxiety about approval.
- Fidgeting with or fixing your hair signals that you’re anxious, over-energized, self-conscious, and distracted.
- Avoiding eye contact makes it look like you have something to hide, and that arouses suspicion.
- Eye contact that’s too intense may be perceived as aggressive, or an attempt to dominate.
- Rolling your eyes is a fail-proof way to communicate lack of respect.
- Scowling or having a generally unhappy expression sends the message that you’re upset by those around you.
- Weak handshakes signal that you lack authority and confidence, while a handshake that is too strong could be perceived as an aggressive attempt at domination, which is just as bad.
- Clenched fists, much like crossed arms and legs, can signal that you’re not open to other people’s points.
- Getting too close. If you stand too close to someone (nearer than one and a half feet), it signals that you have no respect for or understanding of personal space.
Bringing It All Together
Avoiding these body language blunders will help you form stronger relationships, both professionally and personally.
See Dr. Bradberry’s article at TheHuffingtonPost
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